Blog For International Women’s Day

Oh, of course I have to forget about that whole thing.  I’m good at forgetting stuff, you see.

Basically, today is Blog for International Women’s Day, a compilation of different people around the world talking about women’s rights and other assorted subjects.  There are several topics to choose from, and I thought we could touch on the question, “What does ‘equal rights for all mean to you?’.”

To me, equal rights is something that I’ve dreamed about for a long, long time.  It is something to work towards, but at the same time we need to realize that it will always be something we need to work for – it will never be finished, there will never be a “post-equality society,” much as I wish there would be.

Equality would be not having to bring my boyfriend to the car dealer so they’ll talk to me.

Equality would be equal pay for equal work [did you know that current estimates are that women make only $.87 for every dollar that a man makes?], and not being discriminated against in my choice of jobs, training for jobs, or my career choices.

Equality would be my friends who are gay/bi/non-cisgendered not being afraid to tell their friends of their orientation.

Equality would be the lack of need for a “gender neutral” dorm at college.

Equality would be a day when we don’t need reports on what women make compared to men, reports on how many women are CEOs of big companies, reports on how many women are graduating from college.

Equality would be free and easy access to birth control and abortions in case of an accident.

Equality for all would be the day when men aren’t mocked for being a stay at home dad, women don’t feel the need to apologize for not wanting to be a stay at home mom, women would not be hounded and mocked for deciding not to have children, men would not feel the need to protect themselves from an “oops” baby, child support is equal and based on actual need, women and men who are abused have access to the same help in escaping an abusive situation.  Equality would be a women being able to walk down the street at night without worrying if the man coming her way will rape her, beat her, mug her, kill her.

Equality would also mean that people with disabilities/medical conditions aren’t pitied or made fun of or their lives made more difficult because of a perceived weakness or sin or lack of willpower.  Equality means that all patients are treated the same, never told that they’re “drug seeking” simply because certain medications don’t work, that they are not denied medical treatment because their insurance company cut them off or there is a perceived “lack of medical need” or because they don’t have the money.

Equality would be the word “gay” never being used to describe something as “stupid,” the word “retard” never being used to say “he’s dumb,” “crazy” never used for “a little weird,” “lame” is not a synonym for “uncool.”

Equality, again… it sometimes seems like a pipe dream, because every time it seems we make two or three steps forward, others pull us back.  This, however, doesn’t mean I’ll stop trying for it, stop talking about it, stop working for it, stop wishing for it on every first star in the sky, stop pushing every person I know to stop and think about what the gender/sex/race/anything imbalance does to our society, our children, our world.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is what equality means to me.

[While you’re here, please click on the image to be taken to the host site for Blog for IWD, to explore every blog that has touched on this topic today.  Thank you.]

Blog for IWD

I will be participating in Blog for International Women’s Day. Look for more information in the days to come.